"I have heard men say they prefer natural women and then choose the most enhanced dancer in the room." - YES, I remember this well, as an all-natural-figure dancer. Men saying they hated implants and loved a natural body then saying no to a dance with me and heading off with the 34GG implants. Frustrating! But I liked to joke that no surgery could give another girl my legs (the longest in the club).
I did have botox for years and loved it while I was in the dancing and modelling scene... but shortly after retiring, I went to an environmental rights demo and spent 24 hours with all-natural women. No botox, no fillers, no breast implants, no bras, no makeup. I was shocked and entranced by how UNIQUE they all were. I had got accustomed to women around me all looking basically the same, just with different colour hair and eyes. But these women: their faces were so expressive and their fine lines and wrinkles told a beautiful story of their lives. They seemed so entirely confident and at ease in their bodies - 'saggy' breasts and all. I also saw the men at the demo interacting with them with respect and equality. It was a different version of 'beautiful'.
I had botox once again after that but found I didn't want to be that version of me any more... though it took literally five more years for me not to feel a weird kind of guilt and failing, at not 'doing my best to look attractive to men'. I still sometimes feel that - the conditioning is so strong.
Haha, this is true! The beauty industry hasn’t figured out how to extend our legs yet 😅
Thanks for sharing. I have stopped a lot of the things I used to do in the name of beauty but I can’t give up on Botox (yet)! You’re right, the conditioning is so embedded.
"I have heard men say they prefer natural women and then choose the most enhanced dancer in the room." - YES, I remember this well, as an all-natural-figure dancer. Men saying they hated implants and loved a natural body then saying no to a dance with me and heading off with the 34GG implants. Frustrating! But I liked to joke that no surgery could give another girl my legs (the longest in the club).
I did have botox for years and loved it while I was in the dancing and modelling scene... but shortly after retiring, I went to an environmental rights demo and spent 24 hours with all-natural women. No botox, no fillers, no breast implants, no bras, no makeup. I was shocked and entranced by how UNIQUE they all were. I had got accustomed to women around me all looking basically the same, just with different colour hair and eyes. But these women: their faces were so expressive and their fine lines and wrinkles told a beautiful story of their lives. They seemed so entirely confident and at ease in their bodies - 'saggy' breasts and all. I also saw the men at the demo interacting with them with respect and equality. It was a different version of 'beautiful'.
I had botox once again after that but found I didn't want to be that version of me any more... though it took literally five more years for me not to feel a weird kind of guilt and failing, at not 'doing my best to look attractive to men'. I still sometimes feel that - the conditioning is so strong.
Haha, this is true! The beauty industry hasn’t figured out how to extend our legs yet 😅
Thanks for sharing. I have stopped a lot of the things I used to do in the name of beauty but I can’t give up on Botox (yet)! You’re right, the conditioning is so embedded.
‘The older dancers at my club reminisce how a tan and a set of nails used to feel like making an effort’
Omg yes!